Tenacity in Action

I’ve heard the word “tenacious” a number of times in my lifetime but I don’t think I have ever truly delved (I promise this is not AI-generated 😂) into what that word entails. 

Recently, I was in a Bible Class and the teacher talked about “tenacity”. After that teaching, something dangerous was ignited in me and I would like to share it with y'all too. (I know, I'm very generous😌)

To be tenacious means to be dogged or better still unwilling to yield or give up. A tenacious person to me is like a crazy person who despite all odds still goes for something. A tenacious person will say “regardless”, “even though”, “upon still”.

I will explain this in a religious format because that’s how best I know how to explain it. The Bible says “Ask and it shall be given unto you". When you ask and it’s not given, tenacity is not stopping there, it is seeking, you seek. When you seek and you don’t find, that's a clear indication that there’s an obstruction, a door, so you knock and it will be opened unto you. If it doesn't want to open, you knock it down!😤 That is tenacity!

In one of my blog posts I talked about holding onto a scripture when you are anxious. Well, being tenacious will be of great help because you’re saying “Since the scriptures says it, then it is so”. It might not look like it, heck it might not even feel like it but “the scriptures have said it and I strongly believe it is so”, tenacity!

As humans, we get discouraged at setbacks but tenacity is you trying over and over again until you strike gold. Remember even a dead clock is right twice in a day so no matter how hopeless it is, if you keep trying you will get it, eventually. Even if you don’t, tenacity is that you keep showing up and you never give up.

Therefore my dear reader, be tenacious. It’s not that difficult, and sometimes it truly is that difficult. But tenacity is you being defiant and unyielding. It strengthens your mindset and you'll be assured that if everything crumbles today, you’ll wake up tomorrow and have the courage to build again.

I hope this inspired you in some sort of way. If it did, share across boards so you’ll impact another life❤️. 

See you at the next read my lovelies!💋🤸🏼‍♀️

Finding Peace in Chaos: A Symphony of Comfort

What do you do to calm yourself in anxious seasons? I say seasons because I don’t mean short-term anxiety. I mean anxiety that runs for days and sometimes months. Where or who do you seek comfort from? I hope you don’t take on bad habits👀. 

Well, this is about me so I will be talking about where I seek comfort when I’m in my anxious season😗.

As a Christian, I know the broad theory is to seek comfort from God -remember not to bother people too much with your problem because I heard a saying not so recently that “If you tell me all your problems then what will you tell God”. I was shocked at first when I heard that because ahan people can be so unprovoked but there’s some truth to it because truly if you discuss all your life problems with a mortal man what will you tell the immortal God?

Yes, we seek comfort from God but there are means to seek his comfort, practical means and I will be sharing two of what works for me.

Firstly, I find comfort in the scriptures, the Bible. I could just be reading the Bible or a scripture randomly drops in my mind, and it resonates with my spirit so I run with it. You know that moment when you read a scripture and just know that it’s for you? That’s exactly what happens. 

Well, I’m not going to just say this, I will give you a practical example of how holding on to a scripture brought me comfort.

I finished my JUPEB programme in September 2021 and the result was to come out four to six weeks after the exams so it could meet up with the next admission. Unfortunately, October came and went, no result. November said hello and still no result!

Resumption was slated for early January, so we were anxiously expecting the result. December came by fast and it was at this moment I got a scripture. Mark 9:23 “If thou canst believe, all things are possible to him that believeth”. I held on to this scripture so dearly because come January school resumed and there was no result talk less of an admission.

The JUPEB result was to grant me a direct entry into 200-level, although I had a 100-level admission already. Then came the mock comfort, “At least you have an admission already that’s enough”😒 Fam! I did not just spend a year of my life, reading my ass off just to throw it all away😤.

January was running to an end and I kid you not there was still no hope of the result coming out but I still held on to the assuring words from the scriptures I received. I had to believe that everything was going to work out, it wasn’t easy but I kept running with it. 

Then came the deepest deep for me, we (minus the "I" in the "we"), decided to pay for my 100-level admission so I could proceed with registration and whatnot. I think the last time I ever felt that low was when I saw my Jamb result (story for another day😂💔).

Anyway, we paid for my 100-level admission and surprise surprise that same week, if I remember correctly the following day, guess what decided to come out? Yes, you guessed right the result😭😭 To be clear this was three weeks after the resumption.

I would love to give another practical example but this is already so lengthy and you probably read it up to this extent cause you like story🌚😂.

The Second thing I find comfort in is music. This has been my comfort for quite a while now. In secondary school, I had a playlist that could uplift my mood at any time and this was not even a gospel playlist. It had songs like “Fight Song ”and “Grace” by Rachel Platten, “Dream it Possible”, “Shooting Star”, “This is Me” from The Greatest Showman, “Titanium”, “Elastic Heart” and Oh! My all-time favourite “Unstoppable”, this song has been my ringtone since 2019\2020. I'm obsessed😭.

While all these are motivational and satisfying, you won’t find God’s comfort from them and remember we are talking about seeking God’s comfort. Yes, it was comforting but it didn’t bring the peace that transcends all understanding. In essence, you can’t get God’s comfort from songs that are not birthed from the secret place🧘🏽‍♀️.

Now, when I’m in my anxious season I seek for sounds that speak to my soul and I find comfort in it. The first time I clearly experienced this was my first semester exam 200 level. I was so overwhelmed, I mean massively overwhelmed then I caught hold of this song, “Yeshua” by Jesus Image. Hearing the name of Jesus being sung in my ear constantly assured me of him. I remember being plugged in and listening to the song over and over again while reading and even while sleeping and the experience was so comforting. 

During my second semester, the song that gave me comfort was “He Fights For Me” by TY Bello. I had listened to the song before but the day it struck me was the day I had two tests in one day and then the song just gave me immersive comfort, I remember humming it in the exam hall😅.

In a quite big nutshell, scriptures and songs are the means by which I seek comfort when I’m anxious. They have helped a lot, it feels like God’s special way of bringing me comfort. So when I’m anxious I know where to look for comfort.

Music might not be your thing but you can always find comfort in the scriptures🤍.

I would really love to know where you seek comfort when you’re anxious, please feel free to share.

I hope this has been insightful and if you've been following my posts then you are my motivation🥺❤️.

Yes, see you at the next read🤗.

When Delulu Is No Longer the Solulu

Do you guys know what’s worse than being deceived by people? Yes, you guessed right. Self-deceit.

I don’t mean the kind of self-deceit where you actually know what you are doing but them nosy people go “You’re deceiving yourself not me”. But in the real sense of it, you know your truth and you’ve accepted it, but for some reason, they refuse to accept it. 🙄

I’m talking about actual self-deceit that you are sometimes aware of. Being “delulu” but the harmful kind of delulu.

I sometimes have an argument in my head about which is better, ignorance or knowledge. Honestly, I’m still a bit confused, but I sometimes lean towards ignorance, and I will tell you why.

Most times, I mean like eighty per cent of the time when I do or I’m doing something I shouldn’t be doing, I do it with the knowledge that I’m not supposed to do it or be doing it. The feeling is so awful because there is a certain type of guilt that rushes in. 

Let’s say I know I should read my bible but I don't read it and I'm fully aware that the feeling of not wanting to read it is the work of flesh. Also, I know I should not yield to the flesh, but with this information still, I don’t read it.

Now opposed to this, let’s say I don’t read my bible, but I’m not aware of the danger not reading it poses, and the reason why I don’t feel like reading it. The guilt I will feel is less, if I will feel any at all. That's where the phrase "ignorance is bliss" comes in.

Unfortunately, I don’t have a resolution for this particular issue, but if you do have, maybe a mindset that can counter it or something, please share in the comment section.

On the knowledge and ignorance discussion. Knowledge can be so overwhelming. In the sense of you know so much, so you expect much, but you’ll be disappointed because the much you expect is not what you’ll get. 

However, as law students, we are taught that ignorantia juris non excusat, that is ignorance of the law is not an excuse. Regardless of your knowledge level, you’ll still be held accountable. In that case, it is very beneficial to be knowledgeable because your ignorance is not a valid excuse.

Well, as I was saying, self-deceit sucks, but unlike being fully aware when you are deceiving yourself, I’ve met people who deceive themselves, but for some reason, refuse to accept that they are deceiving themselves. This is even more pitiable, so I guess knowledge wins this round again. 

They seem to have lost so much touch with reality, and it’s saddening. I think some of them fail to realise that because you refuse to acknowledge a truth/fact does not stop it from being the truth.

This could pass as a casual blog post, but this is a desperate call for self-evaluation. A very desperate call 🤲

Pause and check for a minute if you are living life in all honesty or if you’ve been deceiving yourself in some sort of way. And if you are aware that you are living in self-deceit, change! Change today 🧎🏽‍♀️

Shalom! 🕊️
*Dramatic and soulful exit*
Oh yeah, see you at the next read.
❤️ & 💡